Understanding Women in Relationships – Do Opposites Attract?

When it comes to understanding women in relationships, one of the oldest debates (even older that those ancient beer commercials arguing between “less filling” and “tastes great”) is the debate about whether opposites attract.

Many people recommend that you find a mate who has a lot in common with you … the buzzword here is “compatibility”. You may have even seen quizzes in magazines or on the internet that purport to evaluate this: “How compatible are you and your mate?”

Why might that be a plus? One reason is that you’re likely to have fewer things to fight over. And if you’re a guy who has been in relationships, you’ll quickly decide that this is the preferred outcome. Most of us guys hate to fight, especially with women.

On the other hand, many people instead advise that “Opposites attract.” The buzzword there is that “complementary” relationships work best. That is, the two of you have sets of traits which differ from but complement (rather that match) each other’s traits.

Perhaps you’re introverted and she’s extroverted? Perhaps you’re very well organized and she’s much more prone to just “winging it”? Perhaps you’re very good at managing money and she isn’t?

At first glance, at least, that sounds logical. It’s the same way football teams approach the college draft each year: they look for strengths that will cover their existing areas of weakness. That’s the way to build a stronger football team, after all. And aren’t couples also supposed to be “a team”?

So, which is the better relationship philosophy? Each approach has some merits: it is easier to get along with people who are similar to us but we also need some differences to keep boredom from setting in too easily.

However, “Mother Nature” has already taken care of this: if you’re heterosexual, almost any woman out there will be very different from you in so many ways. Of course, most women try to hide some of those differences in the earlier stages of a relationship in an effort to get you to like them more and to stay with them. But once you’re married and the honeymoon phase has ended, you’re unlikely to conclude that your wife’s traits are just too similar to your own.

Just the reverse is the more common result: you’ll probably lament that your wife isn’t a lot more similar in her perspectives and outlook to your own.

So, opposites do attract. But if you’re a man and she’s a woman, that problem is largely solved by the way we and they have been designed. Therefore, the most fruitful strategy for most guys is to focus on finding a woman with whom you’re exceptionally compatible.

If you’re looking for a one-stand, then compatibility is not nearly as much of a concern. But if you do hope to be happily married, then compatibility becomes absolutely crucial. Staying together with one woman “until death do you part” will seem an eternity to you if you don’t get along extremely well with her.

Therefore, understanding women in relationships well enough to “go the distance” with one – and enjoy the ride – means understanding the need to make compatibility your highest priority.

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Love and Relationships – How to Get a Commitment and a Great Relationship

Do you want commitment, love, and a great relationship? Are you ready to move beyond playing the field? Do you know how to get your guy to commit to you? Most women do not understand that there are just a few simple things to remember if you want to make that guy realize how absolutely amazing you are. Here are a few ideas to move you along when trying to intertwine love and relationships.

So, you’ve met a great guy and you would love to spend every minute with him! DON’T! Even in the excitement of a new relationship, being always available drastically decreases your enticement quotient. Keep up with your pre-guy activities. Here are a few things to remember:

1.) Being always available translates to making it too easy for him.

2.) Being always available translates to boring.

3.) Being always available translates to no challenge, no prize.

4.) Being always available translates to same old, same old…

Being always available quite often means love and your relationship might stall because of the reasons stated above.

Now, a few things to keep in mind when you are with him. Be exciting and find different, exciting things to talk about. For example, did he know the local college team is going to the playoffs, or that great cover band will be playing at a downtown bar on Friday night? Tell him about the killer rib-eye steaks you grilled for dinner or that hilarious reality show you watched the night before. Definitely tell stories about other friends, including guys. It can’t hurt to let him wonder if he has a little competition, right? But, do stay away from talking politics until you are sure of that love and relationship. If you don’t see that happening, move on. You have the tools to find one of those other great guys out there.

Relationship Advice – Why Women Leave Relationships

Relationships can be hard, and if you are in a long term one, as a man there will be times when you are worried that your partner is thinking about leaving. If this is you, or even if your long term partner has already left you, it is probable that you are searching for answers to the question of why women leave relationships. In this article I hope to help to answer that question for you.

Any relationship that lasts through the initial honeymoon phase, (when quite frankly neither can do anything wrong in the others eyes,) and starts to become a lasting relationship. The emotions settle and the rose tinted glasses start to fade, and as we move into this phase little thing can start to pile up. Little habits that we once found endearing begin to annoy. Insensitive remarks, and little hurts or actions, can over a period of time build up like a barrier between you. There will come a time when your girl will just no longer be able to cope anymore, and this is the point when they may bail out and leave.

A great deal of problems arise from the fact that over time men are taught to think of women as needy overly emotional, and high maintenance creatures. However if you think this is true of every women, then this may be one of your problems in your dealings with the fairer sex. You need to unlearn this fact, of course like all cliches this is true of some women, but you need to take a new approach. Chill out and de-stress, and treat your partner as a person, (not just a woman.) In fact try behaving towards them as you would like people to behave towards you. Trust me it will work wonders.

At the two extremes I have seen men treat their girls as if they were an object of pure sexual gratification, and at the other extreme a replacement for their mother. Both of these are quite obviously wrong, what you should do is to think of your male friends, how do you approach them? It is possible that you spend more time thinking about their individual personalities than you do about your girlfriends. You should take time to get to know your girl, and treat her as an individual. Each woman you meet in your life is unique and should be treated as such.

Most women you form longer relationships with, and if these relationships are to stand any chance at all of succeeding, will be looking to you to be more than just a sexual partner. They will need you to become a friend and confidant to them, and act like you like them as a friend as well as a lover. This is very important as i am sure we have all seen people in partnerships where they don’t actually appear to even like each other.

It is also important that you realize that men and women have very similar sex drives, even though society tries to pretend otherwise. What is important is that a woman doesn’t want to feel that a man just wants her for sex. Not every physical contact should lead to sex, sometimes it should just be an affectionate cuddle, a physical but non sexual connection.

If you are looking for an answer to why women leave men then you should take note of the above points. This should go some way to answering your question, and may even lead to you forming stronger relationships.

If you have recently experienced a breakup, and are not sure where to go from here, can I suggest you watch this video on the magic of making up, I think it may help you to decide on what your next move should be.