Understanding Women in Relationships – “Female Logic 101” For Men

Understanding women in relationships starts from one simple premise: Women really are different from us. Sure, you knew that already. But you’ll often be puzzled by women, since many of those differences make no sense to us men. And if you’re like most guys, you’ll just chalk it up to women being “irrational”. But because you don’t understand female logic, you are likely to assume they don’t apply any logic at all … and this means you’ll only continue to get blindsided by women’s “irrationality”.

There’s no need to suffer that way. Women actually are logical and predictable – but only if you learn how their minds work. Allow us to explain … We’ve written elsewhere how women often intentionally provoke male anger by testing men, and about how bizarre this strategy usually seems to men. To men, anger is a bad thing.

If a woman is angry, it can mean no sex.
And if another man is angry, it can mean you being on the receiving end of physical violence.

Those aren’t good outcomes. But to a woman, your anger means that she matters to you. And to a woman, that is a good thing. Think about it: you get upset only about things that are important to you. If the big game gets pre-empted on TV by a political debate, you’re livid. But if a documentary on the Philips-head screwdrivers gets pre-empted, it wouldn’t trouble you much.

That’s one basic difference between male and female minds:

To a man, it’s the direction of another’s feelings that is more important.
To a woman, it’s the intensity of another’s feelings that is more important.

That’s why women goad us: they want an intense reaction. The more intense your anger is, the more she knows that she does matter to you. That’s music to her ears. Let’s apply this lesson to a real life situation you might have faced: you’re dating a woman and you’re sleeping with her. Then one day, she announces that she’s leaving – she’s no longer “in love” with you. And the sex is over. If you’re like most guys, you’ll panic and try every approach you can think of to get her back in your life (and bed). But if she won’t budge, you’ll eventually realize that it really is over.

What then?

You may explode in anger. You’ll point out that she’s not all that great herself. You’ll rattle off a list of her faults. You’ll call all sorts of choice names. Your goal is partly to salvage your pride. Her dumping you means that she thinks she’s hotter than you are and that she can do better. So you’ll attempt to correct those mis-impressions. But your goal is mostly to hurt her. She hurt you and now you want revenge. That’s why you’ll call her all those bad names: to cause her pain. But unfortunately this strategy backfires. You’ll inadvertently boost her ego instead. How can that be?

Your angry outburst tells her that she’s still extremely desirable and you worship the ground she walks on. In fact, she’ll court more verbal abuse from you because the initial dose was so emotionally rewarding for her. That’s why most former girlfriends or ex-wives call you again to “touch base” some time later: to discover if you’re still angry with her. And if you are, that’s more ego strokes for her.

To a woman, love and hate are two sides of the same coin. They both mean that she matters to you, and to a woman:

The opposite of love is not hate: it’s indifference.

Women and Their Similarities

I have observed for a while, women of different age groups, trying to pin down what really makes them unique. I have come to notice certain strains of similarity which I will expand on, though at the risk of sounding prejudiced. I really am aware that not all women are the same but nevertheless they carry some of these similarities:

1. Love and relationships

Women are serious creatures where love and relationships are concerned. When a woman loves, she does with one goal, to make it work! To this end women usually get burnt out from their efforts as they apply themselves ruthlessly to this task. Sometimes they lose themselves, drown head and shoulders and make a lot of emotional investment, which leaves them exhausted and feeling rejected and unwanted. All this is contrary to their male counterpart who takes it easy, stretches himself only to withdraw when things start getting too hot. No wonder men are called the head because they use their heads most of the time in a relationship, while women use their hearts and are most likely to get heartbroken. Women also engage in petty jealousies as a result of using too much heart and effort. They are simply trying to protect their investment.

2. Need for intimacy

It is also women who initiate and need lots of intimacy. Men would engage in arms length relationships if left to their devices but it is women who bring them down to mother earth and engage them in intimacy. Grudgingly they oblige but are quick to withdraw as soon as they feel that they are losing their autonomy and power. Women have a tough time trying to keep their men hooked.

3. Shopping

Shopping is like an aphrodisiac to women, it gets them excited and rejuvenated just like aphrodisiacs do to a man that is suffering impotence. Women shop for the sake of shopping, not that they need anything but just for the sake of doing it. Looking into their closets a few days after a shopping spree, one woman starts asking herself what she was thinking when she bought all that stuff or that particular outfit, another will be nursing a guilty conscience but the cycle would start again at the next opportunity to go shopping. It is like being hooked on therapy.Shopping is like a therapeutic exercise; you feel good immediately after but still feel miserable a few days later.

4. Sharing or downloading information

Women like to talk. They spend a considerable amount of time talking to each other about every subject on earth. Unlike their male friends, talking creates a sense of bonding in women and they delight in just lending an ear or sharing the latest gossip. It’s also scary the amount and type of information women share and download on each other, some of it very intimate. It is however, just like shopping, an exercise in therapy. This species tends to understand each other and it is not unusual to find strangers engaging in a tête-à-tête and giving each other advice of all kinds.

5. What do women spend their time doing?

Making up, of course! Women pay particular attention to how they look, whether they are models, professionals, business women or ordinary housewives. Women value their looks more than the time spent creating the look. It is called “Make up”, meaning that they spend time creating the look that they want to project to the world. Some might argue that they do not spend that much time applying make up, but I bet you they do spend considerable time in font of a mirror, rehearsing the look that they want to project to the world.

7 Benefits of Online Dating

Once thought of as taboo and only for the socially unacceptable, Online dating has become very much mainstream with an estimated 55% of all single people in America using an Online dating service. Why are so many people flocking to Online dating? Because it can work. There are challenges to Online dating, as with meeting the love of your life at the supermarket, but more often than not Online dating offers a low cost, safe way to meet new people that you probably would not have come across in your everyday life. In most cases, the experiences gained with Online dating are positive ones. Even if you never make a love connection, you can make many new friends. Thousands of people have met online through a dating service, built a friendship, and then gone on to be married. Therefore, if you are thinking about joining an Online dating service, you should expect something positive to come from it. Here are some of the benefits of Online dating:

1 Generally, Online dating is a safer way than meeting someone in person. Most reputable Online dating services allow you to protect your identity until you feel comfortable enough in the process to reveal this. Online dating also allows you to determine the place of your initial face-to-face meeting, which gives you the opportunity to choose a location that is very well populated and safer. This eliminates one of the main fear for women when considering Online dating.

2 Online dating is relatively inexpensive. The average cost to join a dating service is $20-$50 per month. There are some specialty services that charge more, but the majority of sites fall into that category. There has also been a rise in free Online dating sites which dramatically increases the value. For this, you will have access to thousands of profiles and photos, giving you time to narrow down your selections. Compared to the price of going to a bar or some other social function in which you hope to meet someone, the relative benefits of Online dating far outweigh any other means.

3 Online dating eliminates the need for that chance meeting. With Online dating, you have the opportunity to meet people regardless of your schedule. Since the Online dating services are open 24×7, 365 days a year, you can meet people on your schedule. You do not have to be at their location, at the exact same time, and all the stars align for you to find that person. Online dating makes it easy for you to meet people on your schedule and respond on your schedule.

4 Online dating gives you a better opportunity to get to know each other before getting too serious. The process of Online dating is usually a little slower than when you meet someone in person, but the slowness of the process makes you learn more about the person. Their likes and dislikes, interests, and their simple ability to have a decent conversation. Typically, two people will communicate via the dating service, eventually talk on the phone, and then at some point, make a date to meet in person. All of this takes time so you have the chance to learn more about a person than what you would learn from in-person dating.

5 You can online date wearing whatever makes you the most comfortable. Instead of having to get all dressed up to head out to meet someone, you can relax in your favorite pair of pj’s and flirt online. Just imagine sorting through various profiles and photos without having to go to all the fuss of dressing up, which is exactly one of the benefits of Online dating. This comfortable environment also lends itself to more honest interaction rather than the pretentious environment that can sometimes occupy some social scenes.

6 Online dating gives you more options to choose from. Where can you go that there are, depending on your location, thousands of single people to choose from and you have to the chance to talk to anyone you want? Not many places. With the user base of most Online dating services being very fluid, there will always be a large base to choose from and increases the odds of finding your potential match. On the downside, many Online dating services do not do a very good job of cleaning up inactive members, therefore you may spend time searching through profiles of people who are no longer on the market. No big deal, just cost you a couple of clicks and a few moments of your time.

7 Online dating services lets you search as narrow or as wide a criteria as you choose. This makes the possibilities endless. You can narrow your search to find people that fit into the small framework of what you think the person you want to spend the rest of life fits in. Or you can make it as broad as you want, meeting people of different age groups, ethnic groups, religious groups, hobby groups, and so on. Therefore, if you are elderly and looking for a companion, you can choose an Online dating service that focuses solely on making connections for people in your age group. If you love to snow ski, travel, or some other activity, there are dating services designed so people with these same interests can come together. You make the call.