Why Your Online Dating Service Did Not Work

Online dating service serves as a happy hour for most people who don’t feel like going to a bar or disco to meet people, have new friends, and eye gorgeous hanks and ladies to date.

An online dating service is a convenient and relatively safe, when done properly, way for anyone to explore their options in a time where we have been programmed to think that we need to have an unlimited amount of choices. Anyone who can read and has access to the Internet can try an online dating service and most of the dating sites out there are free.

Nowadays, more and more dating sites are being introduced, as the number of people who rely on online dating service increases. Online dating service is a fun experience, and it is even preferred by more adults and singles since it is cheaper and not too risky for rejection. But not all find luck in online dating service. There are a few who find themselves unlucky because it seems that online dating service did not seem to work for them. For those who experienced this, here are some possible reasons why your online dating service didn’t work.

First is the society. For the last 20 years, as we have evolved as a society we have become obsessed with having as many choices as possible. In short, we have become the pickiest generation in existence. With all these choices it is very easy to lose the forest for the trees.

When you search one of the over 100 online dating services sites on the web you need to remember that nobody is perfect. In an online dating service, every member there will have a listing of qualities, physical attributes, interests and a bunch of other stuff that in the past people didn’t know about until they already started to develop a relationship with them. In an online dating service, if your attitude is so inflexible that you will allow to go any potential match who is not perfect in every single way, the tendency is for you to be very lonely for a very long time.

Remember that in this world there is no one perfect person that will be the best match for you. Every person has his own individuality that makes him/ her apart from the rest, but certainly not the perfect one.

Second is carelessness. The profile that you submit in the online dating service site plays a very important role in your online dating experience. There is almost nothing worse than getting passed over by a potential date because your profile is filled with careless errors. When your potential date reads your profile and finds it full of spelling errors and poor grammar, you can almost guarantee rejection.

You should check you profile for errors before you submit them and you should really watch out for the words you put there before you post them in the online dating service site. If you are still not sure about your online dating service profile, there are several professionals on the net, who will be happy to help you make the most of your online dating service.

Online dating can be a frustrating experience if you don’t have the right online dating service tools for success. When meeting someone through an online dating service, good communication is essential. It is expected that you will meet several people from around the world, many with different cultures and beliefs through an online dating service. Therefore, the last thing that you have to do is say something that would come off as offensive although you didn’t actually mean it that way.

Additionally, since you will start by typing messages to each other, it is important that your words make an impression. Also keep in mind when you go for online dating service to be yourself always, it is not good to pretend to be somebody and give false information about yourself. It is better to be true from the very start than to regret later of not telling the truth. But be very watchful in opening up your real identity since there are also people who are very deceiving in nature and you could be the one at the losing end after meeting in person.

10 Tips for Finding the Best Online Dating Site for You

Question: What could Match.com, eHarmony, and AdultFriendFinder possibly have in common and why do you care? Answer: They are all online dating sites designed with a very specific objective and person in mind. Fact is, an amazing number of people sign up to the wrong dating site and wonder why it doesn’t work for them… So, if you are looking for a serious relationship, don’t you think it would be a mistake to join AdultFriendFinder? Yes, it may be fun to look around and flirt, etc., but are you really being honest with yourself and with the other members of that site?

eHarmony is intended for people looking for a long-term, serious relationship, A.K.A. “looking for marriage”.

AdultFriendFinder is intended for people looking for a casual, and in most cases, a sexual relationship, A.K.A. “not looking for marriage”.

Match.com falls somewhere in between, focusing on casual dating that may potentially turn into a long term relationship.

There are literally hundreds, even thousands, of dating sites to choose from. How do you know which ones are right for you? As you begin your search for the best online dating site, you will probably be surprised by the number of options. Online dating services are popping up daily on the internet, making the decision of choosing the “right” service a bit overwhelming.

It’s well worth the extra time to find 2 or 3 dating sites that fit your personality and offer the services that you’re looking for. Narrow down the list of potential online dating sites to your top 3 and then compare them to determine the pros and cons of each one. Pay particular attention to the monthly cost and features offered by each dating site.

While more and more ‘free’ dating sites are becoming available, most sites differentiate between free and paid memberships. In general, most dating sites will let you upload your profile and a few photos, and search through their database of profiles for free (but they may not let you see all of the details). You will most likely have to pay for any additional features.

Once you’ve chosen a few, sign up for each of them. It only takes a little extra time and you’re sure to meet different people on each of the different sites.

Here are some excellent tips for finding a service that will best match your needs:

1 Establish a budget. Decide how much money you want to spend, and set a budget. Most online dating websites charge a recurring monthly fee, but there are a few that have a one-time membership fee, and even fewer totally free sites. Determine up front how much you want to spend so that you can narrow your choices and avoid sites that don’t fit in your budget.

2 Ask for references. Talk to friends and family to see if they or anyone they know has had a good experience with a particular online dating website. If you don’t know anyone, you can always check out an online dating guide. Just go to your favorite search engine and type in “online dating guide”. You’ll get plenty to choose from.

3 Try to choose an online dating service that has been around for a couple of years. The best way to find out how long a website has been around is to go to the website’s “About Us” page where you will learn not only the date the site was started but also the company’s philosophy. Another good source of information is the “FAQ”, or frequently asked questions page on the website.

4 Do your research. Take the time to check your favorite search engines for popular dating sites. Try searching terms like “online dating”, “meet someone online”, or “online personals” to generate lists of potential online sites for you.

5 Consider specialized or niche sites. Think about any special interests or unique situations that might require a more specialized online dating website. If you are interesting in something specific like Single Parents, Christian Dating, Jewish Dating, Senior Dating, Gay Dating, or Adult Dating, make sure you include those terms in your search (see #4 above).

6 Determine the pros and cons of your top picks. Narrow down the list of potential online sites to your top three and compare them to determine pros and cons of each one. Compare them buy cost and features that are interesting to you such as live chat, online video, and number of members on the site.

7 Sign up to multiple dating sites. Don’t be afraid to sign-up for multiple websites or change services if you are not satisfied. The goal is to meet new people online and enjoy the process. If a particular site is not meeting your needs, move on before you invest more of your money on a service that isn’t right for you.

8 For safety and convenience, look for online dating services that offer onsite messaging and email services. This will allow you to communicate with people using a special email provided by the dating service instead of using your personal email or IM (instant message). You should stay anonymous, at least at first. You wouldn’t walk into a bar with a name and address tag around your neck, would you? It is important, however, to use a valid email address when signing up for your account. Most dating sites give you the option to receive email notification of replies to your personal ad, and some even forward the reply right to your email box. You won’t want to miss these emails! I suggest that you use a free email account, such as Yahoo Mail or Hotmail , to reduce the possibility of spam. Just remember to check your new mailbox!

9 Make sure the dating service offers secure payment methods. Also, look at the type of payments accepted (credit card, check, money order, PayPal, etc.) to ensure the options work for you.

10 Look for websites that offer free trials. Look for an online dating service that will allow you to browse profiles and photos before you join, or a service that offers a free trial period so you can talk to people that you are interested in meeting before you have to pay. This allows you to fully understand the number and types of potential matches already signed up with the service.

Attraction and Relationships – Is it True That Behind Every Successful Man Stands a Woman? Part 2

A common proverb attributed to male-female attraction and relationships includes the old cliché that, “Behind every successful man stands a woman.”

However, to reach the top normally requires what in Nature is called “the killer instinct.”

In modern Western human societies, relatively little actual killing takes place and thus the phrase isn’t literally true these days. But it still refers the willingness to set aside your state of mind to achieve a specific and very challenging goal.

The top spot will go to a guy who can fire workers whose wives are eight months pregnant and not miss a beat while doing it. That will also be the guy who won’t think twice about closing down factories if they can be relocated to a third-world country where wages are low and benefits are non-existent.

Loyalty means nothing to him. He has no real friends. Ice flows through his veins.

But the real trick is to seem likeable at the same time. Many politicians and business leaders common have both these traits and it’s the foundation of their success.

But very few guys are that ruthless by nature. Most of us are nice guys. We’re decent human beings. We’re compassionate.

That’s because most societies try to control us from a young age by instilling guilt or shame if we don’t sublimate our own desires to “the greater good” (this most definitely includes the dynamics of attraction and relationships).

The paradox is that men who learn those lessons well won’t usually go all the way to the top, whether it’s in politics, business, or romance.

And let’s face it: that’s most of us! We want to be liked. We worry about what others might think of us. And we’re loyal to those friends and co-workers who have supported us on the way up.

That’s where women come in. We may not be cold, calculating or ruthless. But, women can summon up those qualities more easily than you might realize.

And they reward those qualities more quickly than you’d like to admit: guys who actually have the killer instinct tend to attract lots of women. But there are not enough of those guys to meet the female demand.

So women do the next best thing: they develop their own “killer” man in-house. They find and marry a very smart, talented guy with a solid education and then proceed to hone his killer instinct.

She’ll make sure he “dresses for success.”
She won’t allow him to leave for the office with five o’clock shadow visible.
She’ll regularly prod him into asking for raises.
And when he comes home with a tale of woe about how his nemesis “Fred” is angling for a big promotion at the office, she’ll kick into high gear and coach him on how to ace Fred out of the running with an assortment of dirty tricks.

Like the Drill Sergeant who barks, “Get down and give me twenty!”, she’ll whip her recruit into a lean, mean, fighting machine. He’ll claw his way up the ladder, because she’ll not let up on pressuring him.

But just to be sure that he doesn’t begin to coast, she’ll also ramp up her spending as his compensation grows. And that’s why you’ll see many married couples earning six-figure incomes who seem to be just scraping by. He makes an awful lot of money, but her tastes are even more expensive.

In the past when it was still legal to do so, it wasn’t unusual for companies hiring men for the fast track to interview their wives also, to see if the wife had expensive tastes. If she did, the company knew her husband had the potential to rise to the top some day. But if the wife seemed to be frugal, her husband wouldn’t get the job, because his motivation to do “whatever it takes” would not be there.

If you watch the corporate scandals that emerge every few years and you wonder why guys who are already worth millions of dollars would risk it all on shady schemes that will end up with some of them going to prison, we’ll wager that every one of them was married to a woman with expensive tastes. The next time you see one of those “perp walks” on TV, take a look for his wife walking just behind him and you’ll usually see a very expensively attired woman.