Do you think that sex and relationships are the same thing? Do you feel pressured into having sex in order to have a relationship? Are you confused about signals you get from guys about relationships and sex? Read on to find out if men believe that sex and relationships are synonymous.
A recent poll revealed that most men were not in a hurry to have sex, and surprise, they even consider waiting until marriage. Very different than what most women believe men want today. Women assume that men want to have sex and this is one way of holding on to them. Evidently, the opposite is true….for most. It makes one wonder if sex and relationship are synonymous for men.
As the roles of men and women have changed, our conceptions and even misconceptions about sex have changed. As women continue to thrive in a “man’s world” they think they need to develop a man’s attitude in order to compete and this includes developing their attitudes toward sex.
The truth is, many men hide behind the mask of testosterone and saving face with friends, to hide feelings of insecurity they have about sex. Many men are willing to take things slow and develop a relationship and wait for the right time—-for some, that may be marriage.
So, are sex and relationships synonymous to men; evidently not. Unfortunately, there are men who are only out for one thing in a relationship. If his calls are infrequent, or he calls at odd hours, if you are the last stop on his way home after being out for the evening, he probably is not interested in a relationship.
If he calls just to talk or he takes the times to plan special dates, if he wants to know more about you and what you like, then this guy is looking for a relationship. Are sex and relationship synonymous for a guy? Contrary to what women have believed for years….evidently not.
When some men start out on their dating game, they act like the perfect gentleman by telling the woman whatever she wants to hear, and has her believing it. They keep ad-libbing for a while until they get tired of acting out of character, or maybe they just slip up. Then she gets a bird’s eye view of his normal behavior and you still wonder why women leave relationships. Women don’t care for men that get what they want; then neglect or act like they never knew them in the first place. Yes there are some superficial men out there; take Casanova in the 1700’s, also there was an occupant in the White House that admittedly preyed on his staff.
Throughout adolescences and adulthood your lifestyle and habits are going to change making your approach and viewpoint towards a relationship adjust to the new you, so how can you expect your girlfriend not to alter her routine and demeanor also. Give her room or she will be changing companions as well as her way of life and you will be standing by your self wondering what happened. All things change so go with the flow or get thrown overboard & begin the break-up. The only thing that remains constant is change.
What was really fun for both of you starting out on your journey together, might not be her idea of enjoyment now. Just because you both previously got pleasure from hanging out at the same places or with the same people, doesn’t mean it will remain that way forever. It might be time to rethink some of your habits, especially if your girlfriend has been complaining about it for a while. For anyone else it would be setting off red flags; apparently you are not concerned, for you want to continue to party with your old friends that causes your break-up.
It could be that a person at one of your favorite spots really offended your girlfriend when you were in the restroom or out of earshot one time and now she can’t stand to be around this person. Also one of your old buds could be playing the Casanova role to see if your mate might break-up if tested. That happens quite a lot in relationships where one partner has been friends with a group and then tries to bring their significant other into this group, it doesn’t always work. There can be friction because they were the most important part of your life then, and your girlfriend believes she is now. Could be that you are going to have to choose either the old gang or your beloved, because you might not get to keep both. Life is like that sometimes so if you are still wondering why women leave relationships, any or all of the above mentioned examples could apply.
If a man cheats on you the once and you want to give him the benefit of the doubt, I can understand that. Although I’m not too sure how my reaction would be if it happened to me. If you are in a relationship where the man is a continuous cheat then you really need to question your relationship. Why are you still with him? Ask yourself that question and be honest. Is it fear of being alone? Fear of being a single parent? Do you believe that’s the best you can do? Do you love him more than you love yourself?
The reason I ask do you love him more than yourself is because many women say they stay because they love him! Yes I can understand love. Is love abusive? no I don’t believe it is. It can be but we need to nip it in the bud immediately. No one wants to be in a abusive relationship.
Staying with someone who cheats is a choice its a choice to be abused. That may sound harsh but its the truth. You choose to stay in that relationship, you chose to stay with that partner. The good thing is, you can also choose when to leave. I understand that you need to feel strong within yourself before you can leave. You have to make yourself stronger. No one can do this for you but you. You have to make that decision to move on and move on for good. Find help in other places. Places different from the ones you may have been using in the past. Ie: friends and family. Yes their advice will be good for you as most of them will give you an un bias opinion. Read self help books if you don’t already, I believe that’s a good place to start. Start somewhere, where you can learn more about who you are. “Act like a woman Think like a man” written by steve Harvey. This is a book which was given as a referral from someone who left a comment. The title says it all!
Stop telling yourself negative things about yourself, its all a lie. The more negative you are about yourself the more you are going to believe it. What do you tell yourself when he cheats? do you say “oh he doesn’t love me, I’m not good enough for him, I’m too fat, I’m too ugly” Do you tell yourself things like “I cant raise the children on my own”. Think about those things that you say to yourself. The things we tell ourselves, make us behave in that way.
Im no Guru, I am a random person who has had many experiences with bad relationships. I want to share my experiences with women. I also have witnessed many bad relationships. I am happily married now after being single for many years. I want to share what I know with others. You can all know what I did to get the bad relationships and what I did to finally receive my husband.