The goals of sex and relationships are usually the same; To give pleasure to someone that you have feelings for. But you need to worry about yourself, too. Your needs must be met at some point. Unless, you are so selfless that you just give up and quietly let pleasure pass you by each and every night.
Forget that!… Jump up and express yourself. You deserve great sex too.
Sex does not necessarily end when the man has a climax and men who continue in this attitude need to be taught better. The only one that can do that for these men is the women who are with them. This is a responsibility to the relationship. Too many women are left unsatisfied simply because they decide against expressing their own needs and explaining themselves.
Penthouse magazine once did a research study that found that the average woman needs around twenty minutes of stimulation to be able to climax. While the average man needs a mere two and a half minutes. The problem is obvious.
Another very untimely difference of inconvenience between women and men would be their biological clocks. A man reaches his sexual peak at age nineteen on average. A woman does not reach her sexual peak until age 30. Not exactly synchronized swimming.
Now, this article can easily be interchangeable for both men and women. Just understand that you need to voice what you like and dislike in democratic and considerable ways. When it comes to sex between two people who really like each other speaking up is often better than words left unsaid. Just keep the conversation in the here and now and you will rarely regret bringing it up. I tend to look at it this way: Would I rather save face getting only what could be a lot better. Or would I rather feel foolish for a moment and get what I want forever afterwards.
Knowing these facts, means there are things that we can try and learn to overcome them. Seeing them not as faults or problems but as challenges can make a big difference. Some nights should be focused on satisfying yourself and others you should focus on satisfying the one you love. Finding a good balance keeps everything on the up and up.
In your relationship, you are going to need to find out what your priority is when it comes to sex and pleasure. The fact is though, most men really want to please the woman. In many cases they just do not know how. This is an important factor in sex and relationships. Trust and communication come easy once you realize just how much they want you to be pleased. You are going to want to be the one to teach the solutions to these problems because you know yourself and what you like.
Sex and relationships are not always as complicated as we make them out to be. In a lot of cases there is no one to blame. Mother nature has no one to answer to this much is certain. But you do. You have to answer to yourself and your own body. Getting the sexual pleasure you need will help you live your life in a more fulfilled and balanced way. Allowing other areas to prosper from your happiness.